VG, I'm very sorry that your ex dso did something so cruel. They do need to convince themselves of their own rightness, I think, and don't care if its at someone else's expense when they are still in their fog. I don't see how being supportive and loving could ever make you eligible for blame!

Mino and Proptart, as Fuffy said every situation is different and one person's mistakes are another's best moves. I have absolute faith in both of you to do what's best for your selves and your happiness

Erin, you are a wonder as always - hope you're doing okay!