Thanks Miss C, I dont expect any response at all. I dont expect to hear from him again. Its really for my benefit I suppose, things I want to say that I never got the opportunity to say, I want to wish him well, tell him I hope that he will find the peace he has looking for in his decision to move to the country (he is moving from Dublin, to a remote place 'down the bog' as we say here), let him know that this will be the last time I ever contact him (I expect he will be relieved at that). I think its really about closure for me, tidying up loose ends in my own head - does that make sense?