Folks, thank you for your views. I expect nothing to change as things are where they are, but I think it will help me feel better. I have always been an all or nothing kind of person, I need to feel this chapter is closed and a goodbye on the phone to me just feels unfinished, for want of a better phrase. WW, I cant say definitively how depressed he is at the moment, I suspect less than he was as he is making decisions about the future. I have no expectation of a response, but I think I owe it to myself to say what I have to say and close the book. As I said, I dont know whether I will send it or not, it is written now and I will think on it further,
many thanks,
Erin