Ange,  of coarse one still cares,  the love fades slowly, the door does not slam shut after a letter is sent. ....But for me this was a huge release... the releases of all the hurts I kept inside trying to be supportive... Does it really matter what the sub conscious thinks?  I don't think so... I felt the need to be heard... period...I felt the need to share my thoughts of the last six months, these thought were kept hidden from him... it was the truth coming out... 6 months of fake smiles to keep him happy, even though my heart was breaking....writing and filing it away , or burning it... is still a way of silence.... because the other person does not know whats in your thoughts....sharing theses thoughts gives you a some  of  your power back.... and that is what is needed to move on...  its part of the healing process....