Thanks DSH, but I think Mino is right, sometimes the kid glove treatment is just not acceptable anymore. The relationship is over, he has made that clear, so there was nothing left to do, except express what I wanted to express and let it go. His view of friendship and what it means and mine are worlds apart, anyway I could never be his friend, I love him too much for that. I wasnt nasty or mean in any way, I wished him well and said that I hoped his decision to move down the country would give him the peace and tranquility he wants and deserves. But I had to let him know that that decision came at a price and that was he couldnt just assume that all was hunky dory back at the ranch when and if he wanted to check in. Of course I said that if he ever really needed someone, he could count on me, but I know him and that is unlikely to happen. I didnt say that because I want to be 'friends' I said that to honour the relationship we had and of course if he did ever need my help I would give it without any obligation on his part. Its been such a lovely day here, pity I'm still hobbling around...