Erin,
In no way do I think its WRONG to send a letter....WE all do what we NEED/WANT to do .

Maybe I dont have the right way with words.

however I do still stand by what i wrote (and its possible that one will only GET what I wrote when they are as far out of fallout as I am.. I know I could not have agreed with what I have written to you when I was still in the thick of it and quite raw) I do believe when we contact/write etc and pour out our feelings we do it with expecations... whether we can can see that from where we are sitting at the time is another thing.

Going to counselling and pouring out all the stuff (do empty chair exercise) to that person who has done us wrong is a great way to get rid of our stuff...
Writing letters to our exs is another way... sending does not do much for us or them long term. (just my opinion)


My ex was told by his psych to send me a letter of apology etc six months after the last time he left.
WAS it for me? NOPE .. it was for him .. to appease his guilt etc did he have an expectation.. of course he did(even though he said he didnt) he expected me to forgive, forget etc etc.. (that can only be done on MY time and not because he sent me a letter apologising(yes your letter is different , I get that ) .. the key is he had an expectation... cleansing his own soul... making himself feel better.

He could have done that in many other ways... because nothing I could or would have said at that point would have made any difference.


Hope you have a great weekend.

ps.. again .. YOU are YOU and please do not feel guilty or bad because I have an opinion that is different to yours and YOU did ask what we think so that is all i did... I told you what I thought  

huggs
Ange

Take  what  you  need . . .  leave  the  rest .Blue_butterfly
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