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Jun 8 13 3:24 PM
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Erin,
In no way do I think
its
WRONG to send a letter...
.
WE all do what we NEED/WANT to do .
Maybe I
dont
have the right way with words.
however
I do still stand by what
i
wrote (and
its
possible that one will only GET what I wrote when they are as far out of fallout as I am.. I know I could not have agreed with what I have written to you when I was still in the thick of it and quite raw) I do believe when we contact/write
etc
and pour out our feelings we do it with
expecations
...
whether
we
can can
see that from where we are sitting at the time is another thing.
Going to counselling and pouring out all the stuff (do empty chair exercise) to that person who has done us wrong is a great way to get rid of our stuff...
Writing letters to our
exs
is another way...
sending
does not do much for us or them long term. (
just
my opinion)
My ex was told by his psych to send me a letter of apology
etc
six months after the last time he left.
WAS it for me? NOPE ..
it
was for him ..
to
appease his guilt
etc
did he have an expectation..
of
course he did
(
even though he said he
didnt
) he expected me to forgive, forget
etc
etc.. (
that
can only be done on MY time and not because he sent me a letter
apologising
(
yes your letter is different , I get that ) ..
the
key is he had an expectation...
cleansing
his own soul...
making
himself feel better.
He could have done that in many other ways...
because
nothing I could or would have said at that point would have made any difference.
Hope you have a great weekend.
ps
..
again
.. YOU are YOU and please do not feel guilty or bad because I have an opinion that is different to yours and YOU did ask what we think so that is all
i
did... I told you what I thought
huggs
Ange
Take what you need . . . leave the rest .
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Ange1961
Jun 8 13 3:27 PM. Edited 2 times.
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