I just got off a long conversation with a friend of his.  He repeated the same story about how the passion was gone.  Friend said my husband was upbeat -- no guilt about what was happening.  I feel like I'm losing my mind.  I think the only one he ever showed this dark side too was myself and the ex.  Could I have been the cause of all this unhappiness?  He pulled so far away from me and yet I'm being blamed for that disconnect  I'm at a loss.