I totally hear what you're saying, Ange, about the right counsellor helping anyone/everyone.

My DH's sister has a LOT of issues (once when she was drunk she told me her parents would only truly love her if her brother - my husband - died) and she has been on anti-depressants on and off over the last few years, but never seen a counsellor. It sets my teeth on edge that she can admit she needs meds but not see anyone to help sort out those issues!

Bring on New Zealand... five weeks till I'm back in an English-speaking country and can start getting professional help for DH and maybe me, too!!

GGForward, I'm glad you're finding the counselling really helping.