Hi WW!  so glad to hear from you... Lots of questions to figure out... 1) How do I know he is a rebound? lol  2) The new guy is overly ready to commit..3) No... I think clarity is coming back to him since he is now on 1/2 the dosage of what he was on,  100 is actually a great level for him, where he is calm, himself, and feels again.. 4) that one I'm not sure about... since he did string me along during his depression... at least this is what I felt... he would argue that saying he did miss me, but needed to go through this by himself, and the reason for silence after a date, was so I wouldn't think, hey he is coming home tomorrow...5) considering he has been in therapy for the last 10 months, I would assume this were true...6) I am feeling confused... a bit angry at times as well... I waited and waited, I tried to be supportive and kept getting pushed away, then pulled back in.. and repeat...He still pops into my head many times a day... I do feel guilt on both sides... to the ex... that I continued living my life... to the new, that I still have feelings for my ex... 7) wow my heart... OK  let me see... its sad, really sad that it was left bleeding in the streets, it still hurts to think of the person I gave it to would care so little for my heart... ( sorry ww... I know depression is an illness, but my heart does have a hard time understanding the logic to that) I saw him the other day...my heart hurt for him as well.... I see he has suffered... I still feel his pain... Part of me just wants to hold him and make it better...On the other hand... my heart feels taken care of by the new friend... He appreciates my heart... He fills it with love joy and laughter every day... My heart likes this feeling again... it feels alive... happy...  I always have that option... no need to rush.. and I wont be rushed... I learned that in the last 9 months... I come first... and I need to figure my feelings out...that is the risk I am willing to take... It does feel great to be off the anxiety rollercoster.. to breath lighter and sleep tighter is worth so much these days... : ) Ok, I answered rathe quickly these questions, just what came to mind... so well see what you think : )