A toughie, that's for sure ... I agree with the time and space, treading lightly approach. Your ex hasn't 'just come out of depression', it was a slow process (mainly for you) and so too can be your decisions, working out what you want, what's best for you. Something I would ask myself is ... how am I BY MYSELF? Without my ex, without new guy ... how is Mino, what does she want? That might prove to be enlightening and give some overall clarity. You are the most important person here ...