KWebb, welcome to the Board. Ange is right, you must breathe and take care of yourself first, so that you can remain strong for yourself and your children. She has a diagnosis and is in the care of professionals, this is the best place for her to be at the moment. In the meantime, look at your support system have you friends/family members you trust that you can lean on for support? Does the army provide a counselling service that you can access? I would also strongly advise you to get some information on your rights regarding your children in terms of custody/access etc. I dont know much about Borderline Personality Disorder, but you are doing the right thing by educating yourself about the illness,
take care,
Erin