SGF...

I don't think you are alone with your DSO presenting with NEW behaviours.
I dont think you are alone with your DSO making promises he didnt keep.
Six weeks before my exbph left the first time was our anniversary and he wrote all kind of promises in there and when he was preparing to leave me I held that card under his face and asked.. WELL WHAT IS THIS THEN? YOU SAID ALL THESE THINGS? WHAT DO THEY MEAN IF YOU ARE WALKING OUT THE DOOR ?

He looked at me and said.. ' I JUST WROTE THOSE THINGS BECAUSE I KNEW YOU WANTED TO HEAR THEM' ... ouch!

I was married for 22 yrs and for 20+ yrs my ex had never acted this way.

YES you are right when you say 'HE JUST RAN AWAY BECAUSE HE COULDNT DEAL WITH EVERYTHING'.

That is despression, denial and a heap of other things.

Do not put your life on hold for someone who is rejecting you.

focus on yourself. YOU DESERVE THAT!

Making yourself a WHOLE person, who doesnt rely on another to make them happy is the best thing you can do for you.
IF/WHEN your DSO comes back (Let time take care of that ) you will be in a much better place to have a healthy relationship with him, if you take care of yourself.


Ange

Take  what  you  need . . .  leave  the  rest .Blue_butterfly