Unfortunately, we do have to accept what depressed people say at face value, because it is the truth of their experience. They don't feel certain emotions, at least not the way a non-depressed person does.

In other words, when my DH told me he didn't love me, and that he hadn't loved me for at least 10 years, I had to accept that -- because it was a fact. He hadn't loved anyone or anything for all that time. He said for as long as he could remember, all he had felt was sadness or nothing at all.

We can continue to live in the past and deny the present time, or we can look at the truth square in the face and make decisions that benefit us. I did the former for a while, but the latter is much healthier and completely freeing. I know how hard it is to let go, but until you do, you're hurting both of you. Been there, done that.