I am only recently letting go of my DSO. I went through a similar thing to you Suffering, out of nowhere he just snapped.. I could have reacted differently but I didn't and unfortunately, although I love him with all my heart, he isn't good for me. I waited for him for weeks, telling myself I'd wake up one morning to flowers, breakfast in bed and him begging for me to come back. I waited and it never happened..

I ended up working myself up, not going out, sitting by the phone and eventually slipping back into my own D. That was when I knew I couldn't wait any longer, it wasn't healthy and it wasn't fair.


I know that right now you want to wait, you love him and you care about him but right now, whether its the D or not, he can't give you the stability that you want. He doesn't think he loves you but at least he told you. I waited weeks with my DSO saying he didn't know how he felt which probably made me wait even longer..

If your guy isn't willing to fight for you and your relationship, then you need to stop fighting as well. He can't give you what you want or need right now.. Someday he might be able to but you shouldn't wait around hoping that day will be today.

I'm sorry if I sound harsh.
I feel for what you're going through but things will be ok in the end

Hugs xx