Roxy, I empathise with your resignation, but admire your resilience and your courage. Perhaps like my xDSO, your DH is choosing a life with few 'moving parts' as his solution to his mental health issues. It isnt a 'whole' life and we all live imperfect lives to a greater or lesser extent, it is just so frustrating that they take this path. In many ways it looks like the path of least resistance to us, they are not prepared to acknowledge or seek the help that is out there and will get them to a healthier place, somewhere where they can live a fuller life. And you are right, as always, this is something over which we have no control and cannot fix. I admire your optimism and whatever path you choose, I wish you well with the journey,
hugs,
Erin