Thank-you Erin, It doesn't sound harsh atall.. We are on a 'trial seperation' whatever that's supposed to mean, hence lots of his stuff is still at our shared home. He has been gone 5 weeks and we agreed we would not discuss our relationship until we've been living apart for 3 months. We have a 6yr old daughter so I still see him 2/3 times a week when he visits her. If you want to read my old posts you will get the whole sorry picture! Initially I hoped for a reconciliation but the longer we are apart the less likely that seems.. although I still don't want to give up on my marriage