Roo1, Separate your living arrangements from your child custody arrangements, get him to take all of his stuff that he wants out of your home and deal with your child access arrangements separately, I'm sure that this would cause her less anxiety also, I know she is only 6, but seeing a gradually withdrawal by her Father even if it is temporary must be hard on her, a clean arrangement would be better. Start to reclaim your life as a person, regardless of what the outcome, you will be better for it,
hugs,
Erin