Agree with Fuffy...
There will always be episodes and much longer/meaner/worse.

Something else to think about...

When we go /move on into new relationships we have no guarantees...
by that I mean you cannot know that your new partner will never have Depression or other mental health issues in the future and we cant know that of ourselves either... events happen.
So life really is like a box of chocolates!

I do think there comes a point where you JUST KNOW you cant go backwards... that you need to move forward.


I have no idea what the answer is in your situation.
make a pros/cons list about your new bloke and being with him.
make a totally separate list pros/cons about your exDSO and being with him.

if you keep the two list separate they should look a lot clearer.

Please know what Im about to say next is not a judgment, just an observation about people and life: (and hopefully helpful to others who are reading)

When we end a relationship (and even more important if its an unclear open ending) we really need to take time away from 'new prospective partners'.
I understand this can sound old fashioned etc, and a lot of people believe focusing on themselves is to go out have fun, meet new people (prospective partners included) etc etc. And Im not saying we should stay at home and be a wallflower, what Im saying /meaning is that taking time to really deal and heal after we split is soooo important, so that we are clear in our heads and our hearts.
If we take time out from relationships, and heal we take way less baggage in and we are also much clearer about whether this first new relationship, after a break up is a rebound or not.


Wishing you lots of positive vibes to working out which way to go.

huggs
Ange

Take  what  you  need . . .  leave  the  rest .Blue_butterfly