Billy, Erin is right please do not blame yourself, we the partners are no way to blame for their action or words, I cried when I read your post the same exact words were said by my husband that our marriage was what made him ill, and that it was not working. I admit I fell into the trap of blaming myself but it does not work you just feel rotten, I miss my husband terribly and not a day goes by that I do not wish that he would come back and say he was wrong to leave and he now knows that it was the depression talking, but I doubt very much in my case that that will happen. Keep strong, and look after yourself and most importantly be kind to yourself.

Hugs