Yes, the deal breaker being, for me, not just the emotional affair but DH's total refusal to acknowledge the damage it was doing, refusal to even talk about it and blatant disregard for my feelings.. Over 6 months, I continued to give my love and support to him whilst tolerating this 'friendship' that has taken over his life. I finally reached the end of my tether.. ! I am happy for him to see our daughter as often as he wishes, I wouldn't deny either of them that.. he is a good father and I'm certain he takes good care of her. Access and custody are not things I have considered as yet..