Hi Thatgirl

Your story is similar to mine, although I really ended up emotionally drained from the constant verbal and emotional abuse. I think men don't like to admit they have a problem, but when D is thrown in the mix it seems like both men and women have that but 10 fold worse than non-D people. I personally do not know how relationships can survive multiple D episodes if the SO does not realise they have D, or attempt to get help. I only wish I had found this forum before I became so broken. as the advice and support here is really helpful, and its so nice to know that when you need to rant the pple here understand. I agree with McDoodle, get Annes book. I got it too late to save the relationship, but it helped clear up a lot of questions in my head. It also helps you talk to the dSO and gives you ways to help him realise he needs help.

I hope that you get strength and support from the forum, but the main key msg everyone tells the newcomers, is that you do need to look after yourself. We tend to loose that during fallout.
Hugs