oooh yeah!

The important thing here is YOU are GETTING IT... its like the 'penny' is dropping, when you finally get that you need to react(or not react) in a certain way to not be reeled back in.

My exbph would turn up at our house for the most bizarre things.... OR I would return from being out to find him there .. washing his car(he had his own place he could have done it there), mowing the lawn, trimming the hedge... looking at stuff in the shed or just visting the dog. (I can laugh at it now but at the time it just added to my feelings of omfg this is crazy)

In the end when I was stronger, emotionally, I set a boundary with regards to him coming to the house and my own wellbeing improved heaps.

So glad you have put yourself first. Its so important and often so hard to do.

A good thing to do when craziness reigns is to ask yourself what you would say to a good friend if that friend told you what they were going through.. eg.. receiving txts or visits from an ex.

stay strong it will get easier.

Each time you dont respond to him, you strengthen your own emotional position.

Ange

Take  what  you  need . . .  leave  the  rest .Blue_butterfly