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I think we are missing a key point here, the feeling of being "in love" will not last forever. Relationships change and go through phases as time passes. The early fizz is usually gradually replaced by a mature, deeper understanding love.
This view bellow is an idealistic view on relationships, not a realistic one.
Not in-love defined
Not emotionally connected. This was lost some time in the past.
Dont care to share my day-to-day happenings/dreams/etc.
Not interested in her day-to-day happenings/dreams/etc.
Dont care to give her presents, small or large.
Not excited about being with her at the end of the day.
Would not care if she or I had an affair.
Is there ever such thing as a soul-mate? I do not feel we are soul mates.
DAML, is good to have a alternative point of view on here. It may or may not be depression causing the problems in your relationship only you will know, however in my opinion you seem to have unrealistic expectations for a lasting relationship. Being in love is in the moment, its not a constant state of a emotion otherwise we would never be able to do anything else in life if we constantly thought dreamingly of our partners, felt excited every time we saw them and wanted to spend every breath with them.
This sort of emotion will happen at the start of pretty much every relationship, but what is more important is that the butterfly feeling turns into compassion, trust, loyalty, comfortability, friendship and understanding. That is what a loving relationship is built upon, two people that are compatible.
I think some people can lose sight of this and think the grass is always greener, that's where I think the depression plays a part, not making you think your not "in love", but making you dwell too much on this idealistic love.
Only my opinion, but hey thought I'd share.
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