Emerald- sounds terrible.  As to him resenting you living - too bad.  You have to live  to protect yourself.  If not, he will grab your ankle and pull you down with you.  Do not drown with him.


Lyrics to Jack's Mannequins "Swim"[center]You gotta swim
Swim in the dark
There's no shame in drifting
Feel the tide shifting and wait for the spark
Yeah you've gotta swim
Don't let yourself sink
Just find the horizon
I promise you it's not as far as you think
The currents will drag us away from our love
Just keep your head above
Just keep your head above
Swim
Just keep your head above
Swim, swim
Just keep your head above
Swim


Ironically, my XDSO would play guitar while I sang this song.  Happier days.
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