Don't feel like an outsider! That was the healthiest thing you could do for you, and we are all just playing ourselves if we ever think we can make things work with our dso's if they refuse treatment. You know the success of those is zero. So why put yourself through it. I envy you for getting to hear those things but I would have had to do the same or suffer more later. We have to put us first now. And, you arent his savior, you know? You can't save him. He will cope however he does, but you can't save him. Love him, yes. Keep him sane or alive or whatever, no. That's the hardest truth of all. So hang in there and don't apologize for feeling. I, for one, am not offended