Sounds like he's momentarily getting better, and yet it could be a case of 'pull' too...and we all know how long the 'pull' can last...mine lasted for at most a day...

Hope you don't mind me saying this...but it does seem like he's going to have a lot more of this upswing and downswing...upswing and downswing...maybe some day, it might be time to ask yourself the hard questions...

I know you love him a lot...and this scenario of loving him up close in his 'up' period and loving him from afar in his 'down' period still allows you to stay and love him...I probably might do the same thing...hoping things would get better...

Ellen, if you're comfortable with status quo...then stay...and hope for things to get better...but sadly, there's no guarantee of any future with him...unless a miracle happens, he wakes up and actively seeks help...

If you feel that you can only love him and no one else...and can do this until death do both of you part...then persist...it's romantic...but it would be very unfair to you, if you don't mind me saying...

I only want the best for you, Ellen...if this stays the same for the next 6 months-1 year, my humble opinion is to let him go...but before you let him go, tell him everything you feel first. He has the right to know...and hopefully by then, his mind would have been clearer and he would be able to decide logically and rationally...whether to seek and help and salvage the relationship, or not to seek help and carry on with his merry ways...

Just a suggestion only Ellen...only want the best for you...sometimes, the definitions of 'best' for you and me can be different...hang in there, Ellen. Hope God grants you the ultimate wisdom to know what to do...*patz*

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