You were mentioning there are 2 options. Either be aggressive or be passive. I actually believe in a 3rd which is to be honest. To her and to yourself. When she is in a lighter mood talk about how you feel about the depression and how it's affecting you. This is a two way relationship and you matter!

Right now yes there are stresses to graduating but from what it sounds like she has an illness. What you do or where you are won't make a big difference if she is sick. She needs to get help. I'm glad she is willing to seek it. That is a very import a step to acknowledge the depression. 

Remember even though she is sick it's a 2 way street. You are young and if she doesn't take responsibility and get treatment for her depression I would really think about your future together. Depression in a relationship is hard to deal with even when the person is getting treatment. If they are not it's just a downward spiral. 

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