sadwillow, that is considerate of you to send your ex information but i am concerned about you. are you taking care of yourself and doing things to help you recovery from what has happened? i know that in the world of depression we easily get so wrapped up in trying to help them, i'm guilty of this, that we forget to help ourselves. remember we matter : ) i'm not saying this to be critical. i struggle with co-dependent and enabling issues myself. and often need to remind myself that i count.