welcome to the boards. it sounds like your boyfriend is in a very dark place. that is terrible that you've had to go through so much of that darkness with him. as for your questions, yes depression can and does make a person destroy their lives. depression is completely irrational. the hard truth is you cannot do anything to bring him back. he needs to get help for himself. you were saying there are no psychologist in this area? has he talked to a doctor in his area? they should be able to help him find someone. often depressed people make excuses for reasons on why they can't get better. as well with his illness it really doesn't make a big difference where you guys are living. often with depression people think that moving will solve all their problems. but if they don't deal with the issues they have with a professional then their problems follow and often get worse. you can't fix his illness. he needs to do that for himself. all you can do is be honest with how you feel about the situation and protect and take care of yourself.