Thanks Ashley, yes we are all in very similar situations some worse than others.

I count myself lucky I am away from the monster he has become, I bumped into the God Mother of our children that the DH tried to turn against me, yet he had initially sent her a text telling her to look after me as I did not deserve this. Luckily she does not believe his bullsh*t and lies, I saw her looking worn and ill, her own BP DH is now in MDE and stopped taking his meds, we are reunited again and our friendship is strengthened and we are supporting each other, so something good has come out of this sh*t.