Momobvious,
I give you and your family my heartfelt condolences. Such a great tragedy and all of our greatest fears. You are such a strong and compassionate person that you are using this message to help others. I agree with you about getting them into an impatient program. My DH is spiralling out of control again and this has given me the courage to fight to get him in. You see after living this for 2 years I was ready to give up. I was angry. But I realize the effect this has on everyone. We also have kids 18 and 16. He says he has hit his rock bottom. I will continue to fight this. i write this with tears streaming down my face for you and your family. I am thinking of you. And like J27 said, know you did everything you could.