Hi broken2day

The egg shell feeling is "normal" for people in depression fallout. I think once you read Anne's books you will have some comfort in what you're feeling and that you're not alone.

Perhaps you can present him with some support as to why anti-depressants work and that it doesn't appear like just doing what he's doing is going very well. If he flat out won't take medication though...that may be a very bad sign for whether or not he's going to get better.

unplainjane is right though - it will be a long road. But if it's one that you currently want to take (you can always revisit this decision if it gets to be too much), I would start by reading Anne's books and seeing if you can get him to tell his doctor how he's feeling (ie. get meds) and seek some counseling. He may resist all of it though - so be prepared and remember that you can't fix him. Only he can fix him.

And don't take him not responding to you personally. Again, that's the depression - depression is a real jerk.

The only person you can control...in all situations...is you.