I completely agree it is all our own personal journey there is no right or wrong way ..although there are many comparisons in each others stories we are who we are as,are dso ..ex or eitherwise ,when the father of my four children left me in 2007 I had pnd but him leaving broke me not him per se as he had left and had affairs twice before I was relieved in the end. ...but I mourned my family and it took me years about 3 to realise he wasn't worth it and a few more to think about dating again..he left me damaged though anxious and a constant patterns of behaviour observer ...
​with my recent relationship it was so beautiful not perfect but beautiful however his depression for now has won ...i have slipped back to some of my comfortable ways by which I mean avoiding going out unless I have too ..but I have made steps to limit myself on how much I slip back ..people want you to move on for kind loving reasons but sometimes because they don't know what else to say ...I've rambled ..my point was we all find our own way through I know when to give up I have been there before...
​I need only answer to myself .....x and finally not one way works for all people ....