Hi Hopefull0253,
If she is not keen on the Western Medicine route, she may be more receptive to a natural approach set out in The Mood Cure by Julia Ross -it uses nutrient and amino acids to correct chemical imbalances in the brain in a similar way to ADs but she would be in control. It is also a really interesting book and I highly recommend it to anyone who wants to better understand the role of neurotransmitters in depression and other mood disorders. Some of the info is also here: http://www.moodcure.com
Two other recommendations from me in the same vein are:
www.dominatedepression.com and www.balancingbrainchemistry.co.uk
I'm in no way medically trained, nor do I have any connection to any of the authors of the above, but I have read a lot on the subject and know a few people who have seen some success with this approach. Please feel free to send me a private message if you want anymore info.
Good luck, Babysteps