Hi Becky,

No he is not seeing a therapist. This thought of bipolar or depression has never crossed my mind until just recently and finding his behavior to be so out of character. But looking back I can now see little bouts of mental instability with him, just not to this extreme.

We were seeing a marriage counselor, my idea because there was just so much wrong with me and how unhappy I made him. He stopped going right before he quiet his meds because she brought up his dad and wanted to talk about the issues with him. His dad was abusive to him when he was younger. He says I am the only one who needs counseling because I need to fix myself, not him, myself (that was just said to me a few days ago). 

I for some reason have never merged our accounts together so nothing is joint (looking back I am so happy I never did). All his spending is happening on his own accounts, thank goodness for that (mean to say I know).

he is slowly drifting further from us, doesn't come to see the kids daily and when he stops by it is for a few minutes. He has become a bit colder to me as well. Our conversations are on his terms, as hard as it is for me, I try not to text or call him unless the kids want to talk to him. We also have gone a few days now without a blow up, which in the past months this is unheard of.

I read that it takes 90 days for the brain to recalibrate after coming off of an antidepressant, I keep hoping this will happen and he will come back to me. His 90 days off his meds is at the end of this week so we shall see.