hope4thefuture - I cannot imagine the pain you are feeling. I don't know what to tell you. I know it's not easy to forget him and lead your own life - but that's what you might need to do. He's got serious psychological issues, and instead of getting to the bottom of it, he is finding temporary reprieve in women - that's what most guys do.

I know it's hard to walk away from a 30 yr marriage. You gave and gave and gave and got back this in return!

The only thing you can do is take good care of yourself.