Hi balancingblue,

I actually just got off the phone with his brother. I think he thinks I'm crazy. I called to tell him not to be giving my husband any money seeing that he is in a large amount of debt. I voiced my concerns, but because my SO is on his best behavior there, he isn't buying what I'm saying. I told him this is a complete 180 in character for his brother, and to just keep an eye out for odd behavior. He mentioned that my SO is not the same, but wouldn't elaborate so I have no clue as to what that means. 

I am hoping that my husband hits a wall and we are able to sit down and show him that he needs help. Divorce or not, I love him and he is my best friend (or was my best friend) and I only want the best for him!