Hi Hope4thefuture,

I am so sorry to read your storey and glad you have found this wonderful place for great advice and support.

Great advice and insight from above posts.

Are you talking to a solicitor just incase you need to start protecting your assets?  J27 and others have and are going through this at the moment.  You must look after your interests and that of your children.

That defensive behaviour and playing victim is so sad and irritating to deal with.  We are seen as controlling manipulating and bullies yet all we have done is love and support them. 

I wish you and your children all the very best and that your husband decides to get help otherwise he will have a half life when he could be having a whole life with you.

It is a horrific illness.  I am sorry for all the pain your have had to endure.