It's been a few weeks!!still struggling with things my wife is still hear just!she had put a deposit down a rented property down the street maybe 2 weeks ago!she went to see her female friend who lives in Liverpool a couple of weeks back while she has there she tx me out the blue asking about the girls witch she hasn't done for a few weeks I tx back telling her they were fine then she went on to ask if we could go up to the caravan for a few days as a family witch was a big shock to me she was full of rage towards me before she went!i said yes!she tx me again saying she was very upset with herself and she wasnt going to take the house down the street she couldn't do that to the girls witch I was obviously pleased about.

when she got back she went to see a close family friend of both of us because I wasn't home from work,the friend of both of us rang me on the sly and told me she was there she was upset and wanted to speak to me and that to my friends mind she loved me!

my wife returned later that evening she was visibly a lot calmer so I let her talk expecting a show of emotion but nothing came just general chat she said she was going to bed I didn't push just let her do what she wanted to do.

the following day at work she tx me a couple of times her tone had changed she seemed off stressed about money I offered to help she replied with"we are not together so she can't expect me to" she also went to say that a had no write talking to our Mutual friend about her and that things she has told me were private and I shouldn't have said anything to them witch I could understand,but I only told them because I am desperately worried about her and knew that she confides in them and if they were abit more in the picture they might be able to help her ie tell to go to the doctors and so on.

since then witch was last weekend she is very very angry and then I see glimmers of her when she calm she tx me in the day General things day-to-day things texting me pictures of the girls and food she's making but nothing emotional no emotion at all came home to a blowup yesterday she couldn't control herself telling me that we were over and I needed to accept it the girls were upset witch is killing me 10 minutes later she seems ok again talking generally I'm so confused am I the one with the problem do I need to just let her go! I know she will struggle so much on her own and I can see that she is not herself ten years together and the person that stands in front me is a stranger she is so erratic but is she erratic because she's unhappy with me or because she is depressed she told me it's nothing to do with her tablets and depression and I don't know everything which is what makes this so hard .Feel desperate for the children! She doesn't see how this is effecting them but I do!!Asked her again to do to go to the doctors but she refused.