Hi folks, haven't been on much, so if you are new you probably don't know me. Back in summer 2012 I practically lived here on this board, searching for answers that never came, at least not from here. But I did get lots of support and met some great people who helped me through the darkest time of my life. My DH was diagnosed with Depression, still gets treatment, but is still a mess in so many ways. But what is important is me and my kids. I went through the wringer, folks, and I survived it. DH has chosen not to be living here in the house with us, and while at the time it was devastating, crushing, demoralizing, etc etc, now it is a blessing not to have his depressed self here. I am happier than I have been in years. It is not because I don't or didn't love my husband more than anyone else loves their significant other. It is because I came through intact and I found that I liked myself. I went through all that crap that Fallouters do, and now I have more friends than I ever had in my marriage, I'm closer with some of my family members, my kids and I have a closer relationship. I am going to Hawaii on vacation in a couple days with my sister and my kids, and I am happy about it. It seems to mark the end of a sh!tty period in my life, and I welcome it. I will sit on Pacific sand beaches, and reflect on how far I have come, what my life has in store for me, and how I am a survivor. For the first year on the board, I couldn't wait to post my success story, which I thought would be all about my husband coming back and everything being great again. But he is only a bit player in my success story; I am the star, along with my two teenagers. I have a supporting cast too large to name them all. My success story is happening here and now. This is my story: Dazed got through it, she got her kids through it, and she is going to Hawaii to have a happy vacation.





