I posted on here last back in March. My boyfriend had just broken up with me and I was devastated. He blamed it on depression fallout, I decided after weeks of crying and feeling numb that I was going to try and get him back. So I worked on myself and I went no contact with him. In two weeks he got back in contact and said he regretted breaking up with me, he said he would like us to become friends and see where we go from there.
This was in May. It has been months, and now I can see him slipping again, we are just friends, friends who have sex every now and then, and he and I see each other regularly. Two weeks ago he stopped replying to texts, except to say no if I invited him to do something. I called him out on it and for three days he was so attentive, we saw each other most nights this week and I thought we were moving forward, he even started putting kisses on the end of his texts.
last Friday he seemed more distant than usual, he had his back to me as he slept, in the morning he barely spoke to me, said he was exhausted. I saw (through chance not because I'm a stalker) a girl texting him asking if he's ok and his texts were saying how low he was feeling. He said to me he would never be happy. So I asked whether he was lower than I realised and he said he was. Since then, he's barely replied to texts, he's not wanted to see me and I don't want to nag or force him to, especially when he's dealing with depression.
I don't know what to do, if I text him and ask him how he's feeling, will that push him away? If I text him normally I don't think he'll reply.
How do I open up the lines of communication between us again? Does anyone have any advice? I want to be there for him, I want us to be back together, but right now if he keeps pushing me away, I don't know if we can. Mainly because he won't let me.
This was in May. It has been months, and now I can see him slipping again, we are just friends, friends who have sex every now and then, and he and I see each other regularly. Two weeks ago he stopped replying to texts, except to say no if I invited him to do something. I called him out on it and for three days he was so attentive, we saw each other most nights this week and I thought we were moving forward, he even started putting kisses on the end of his texts.
last Friday he seemed more distant than usual, he had his back to me as he slept, in the morning he barely spoke to me, said he was exhausted. I saw (through chance not because I'm a stalker) a girl texting him asking if he's ok and his texts were saying how low he was feeling. He said to me he would never be happy. So I asked whether he was lower than I realised and he said he was. Since then, he's barely replied to texts, he's not wanted to see me and I don't want to nag or force him to, especially when he's dealing with depression.
I don't know what to do, if I text him and ask him how he's feeling, will that push him away? If I text him normally I don't think he'll reply.
How do I open up the lines of communication between us again? Does anyone have any advice? I want to be there for him, I want us to be back together, but right now if he keeps pushing me away, I don't know if we can. Mainly because he won't let me.




