I've been glued to this site since mid June when my husband of 5 years (14 years together) came home and flat out said he wanted a divorce. He keeps saying he wants to be nice to me during the whole process and that I need to find someone "normal".
Our story:
We have always had a good relationship, we would get into little tiffs about very small things, but be over it and moved on by the next day. Last summer he was put on Zoloft for his social anxiety and then in December his doctor put him on Celexa. In May of this year he had kidney stones and after a minor procedure said he felt fine and didn't need his medicine anymore. So he quite Celexa cold turkey. He starting becoming more irritable with me and then on June 16 he came home and announced he wanted a divorce. Nothing has been filed. He keeps saying he wants to be kind to me, but he argues with me over everything, calling me every name in the book. The entire relationship has been horrible and I have never treated him properly. I never showed him respect or any love. He is Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, either extremely mean and then nice or the opposite with in 20 minutes time.
He has racked up $13,000 in credit card debt, wants to buy a home in Hawaii (somewhere he has never been) and has been looking on Tinder for people to date (he keeps telling me he doesn't want to be with anyone else and wants to be a loner).
I caught him in a lie the first week of August where he said he was staying with a friend but turned out he was staying at some girls house. He came home and acted like nothing happened. Why lie and hide it, if you are so happy to get a divorce? He was asked to move out that day, he was deer in headlights when I said that. I tried the No Contact between the two of us, we have two toddlers so I ofcourse keep lines of communication open for them. He is definitely a Clinger and doesn't understand why I want no contact with him. His anger and irritation has gotten worse with me, but tells his friends and family he is being nice to me until the divorce is final. His friends think I'm making things up and I'm crazy because he acts completely normal and just wants a divorce because I'm an argumentative person who brings him down. He still calls me his wife and every once in awhile he will call me by my pet name. It's so confusing because I get a small glimpse of my husband and then it goes away.
He refuses to go back to the doctor because he is fine and I'm depressed. Does anyone have any experience with their SO stopping meds cold turkey and behaving this way? I have read that Celexa can cause mania. Is that what I am dealing with or is it depression or just me going crazy?
TIA
Our story:
We have always had a good relationship, we would get into little tiffs about very small things, but be over it and moved on by the next day. Last summer he was put on Zoloft for his social anxiety and then in December his doctor put him on Celexa. In May of this year he had kidney stones and after a minor procedure said he felt fine and didn't need his medicine anymore. So he quite Celexa cold turkey. He starting becoming more irritable with me and then on June 16 he came home and announced he wanted a divorce. Nothing has been filed. He keeps saying he wants to be kind to me, but he argues with me over everything, calling me every name in the book. The entire relationship has been horrible and I have never treated him properly. I never showed him respect or any love. He is Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, either extremely mean and then nice or the opposite with in 20 minutes time.
He has racked up $13,000 in credit card debt, wants to buy a home in Hawaii (somewhere he has never been) and has been looking on Tinder for people to date (he keeps telling me he doesn't want to be with anyone else and wants to be a loner).
I caught him in a lie the first week of August where he said he was staying with a friend but turned out he was staying at some girls house. He came home and acted like nothing happened. Why lie and hide it, if you are so happy to get a divorce? He was asked to move out that day, he was deer in headlights when I said that. I tried the No Contact between the two of us, we have two toddlers so I ofcourse keep lines of communication open for them. He is definitely a Clinger and doesn't understand why I want no contact with him. His anger and irritation has gotten worse with me, but tells his friends and family he is being nice to me until the divorce is final. His friends think I'm making things up and I'm crazy because he acts completely normal and just wants a divorce because I'm an argumentative person who brings him down. He still calls me his wife and every once in awhile he will call me by my pet name. It's so confusing because I get a small glimpse of my husband and then it goes away.
He refuses to go back to the doctor because he is fine and I'm depressed. Does anyone have any experience with their SO stopping meds cold turkey and behaving this way? I have read that Celexa can cause mania. Is that what I am dealing with or is it depression or just me going crazy?
TIA




