Its a long story I will try and keep it as brief as I can.
I have been reading the many sad and difficult stories on hear, I feel its the right time to tell mine.
Just hope Im in the right place to do so.
Married for almost 30 years, we have children and grandchildren who we love dearly.
Have certainly had our fair share of ups and downs throughout the years. Many wonderful memories
and great times, however over the past few years its been tough.
A few years ago we were having financial struggles, dealing with parents illnesses etc, sold our house
to relieve the financial burden. We moved and the hope was that things would improve. Couple of months
after we had moved into the house my husband dropped a massive bombshell!!! An affair with a work colleague.
The devastation was awful something I would never want to go through again.
Prior to this he had been irratable with me and our grown up children, he was slowly detaching from us.
Looking back there were times when over the years he would have quite low periods, I would say
especially in winter. A couple of times he would say worrying things about himself and his state of mind.
Seeing a gp at this time was not an option for him.
However the aftermath of the revalation of an affair was so traumatic for me and our family.
He lived with his parents for a couple of weeks and then moved to another city to be with ow.
This took us over christmas time. To cut this part short he came to see me and we talked and talked the outcome
was that we would try again, both had separate counselling well he had 3 sessions and saw doctor who prescribed
anti depressants. Doctor belived it was some sort of breakdown.
Things slowly improved it was hard but we were happy.
He was consumed with guilt but we had marriage counselling that helped.
A series of unfortunate events were to follow.
We sol the house we were in, werent in it very long about a year, released capital , started a new buisness we the idea that
once it had got going we would buy again.
Sadly my mother died after a difficult illness
It was hard she was such a lovely lady.
Couple of months later husband had a heart attack, shocking is an understatement.
Hospitalised for a week, needed lots of TLC. He did struggle but looked closely at his lifestyle smoking, and drinking although not excessively.
He managed to quit smoking for a few months. I gave up to in order to help him.
The following few years were hard, buisness didnt work. Moved again used capital from sale of house to live off as my earnings
wouldnt cover outgoings. His health was up and down spending time in hospital getting meds under control.
He also dealt with other medical problems.
He managed to get work on and off.
A new year 2015, well christmas wasnt great he had been in hospital in november twice which was upsetting for all of us..
His mood changed quite dramatically over those couple of months. Irritable, moody snappy lack of Iinterest in me or our family.
Walking on egg shells! Just a bit. It became hard for all of us.He couldnt drive for a few months incase there were cardiac
problems. I FORGOT TO MENTION HE FOUND A NEW JOB OVER A YEAR AGO.
Work were very understanding!
My closing paragraph , I asked him what was wrong and instead of him saying the usual im tired or im fine, he told me that
he wants to live on his own. I was numb. I couldnt believe it. That conversation changed my whole life, I wanted to believe
we would be together forever. So much time invested for it to end like this.
Lots said and done over the next few days and then he left...
Within weeks of leaving he has moved in with his manager who left her husband a while before he left me! He never told me
that when he lived at home. !!
He insists she is not the reason he left. Im heartbroken , all I have done is love and care for him. Our children are finding this all very
hard and dont understand what has happened to their dad.
He was a loving family man. I dont understand who I have been married to.. Couple of our children have almost no contact with him
one of them talks to him weekly. I havent seen him in 5 months and the only communication is the odd txt message.
One of my children says he is defensive and almost feels like he is the victim, doesnt get the pain he has caused as he
says the totally wrong thing.
I f you have read this far thankyou
Your thoughts would be appreciated.
I have been reading the many sad and difficult stories on hear, I feel its the right time to tell mine.
Just hope Im in the right place to do so.
Married for almost 30 years, we have children and grandchildren who we love dearly.
Have certainly had our fair share of ups and downs throughout the years. Many wonderful memories
and great times, however over the past few years its been tough.
A few years ago we were having financial struggles, dealing with parents illnesses etc, sold our house
to relieve the financial burden. We moved and the hope was that things would improve. Couple of months
after we had moved into the house my husband dropped a massive bombshell!!! An affair with a work colleague.
The devastation was awful something I would never want to go through again.
Prior to this he had been irratable with me and our grown up children, he was slowly detaching from us.
Looking back there were times when over the years he would have quite low periods, I would say
especially in winter. A couple of times he would say worrying things about himself and his state of mind.
Seeing a gp at this time was not an option for him.
However the aftermath of the revalation of an affair was so traumatic for me and our family.
He lived with his parents for a couple of weeks and then moved to another city to be with ow.
This took us over christmas time. To cut this part short he came to see me and we talked and talked the outcome
was that we would try again, both had separate counselling well he had 3 sessions and saw doctor who prescribed
anti depressants. Doctor belived it was some sort of breakdown.
Things slowly improved it was hard but we were happy.
He was consumed with guilt but we had marriage counselling that helped.
A series of unfortunate events were to follow.
We sol the house we were in, werent in it very long about a year, released capital , started a new buisness we the idea that
once it had got going we would buy again.
Sadly my mother died after a difficult illness
It was hard she was such a lovely lady.
Couple of months later husband had a heart attack, shocking is an understatement.
Hospitalised for a week, needed lots of TLC. He did struggle but looked closely at his lifestyle smoking, and drinking although not excessively.
He managed to quit smoking for a few months. I gave up to in order to help him.
The following few years were hard, buisness didnt work. Moved again used capital from sale of house to live off as my earnings
wouldnt cover outgoings. His health was up and down spending time in hospital getting meds under control.
He also dealt with other medical problems.
He managed to get work on and off.
A new year 2015, well christmas wasnt great he had been in hospital in november twice which was upsetting for all of us..
His mood changed quite dramatically over those couple of months. Irritable, moody snappy lack of Iinterest in me or our family.
Walking on egg shells! Just a bit. It became hard for all of us.He couldnt drive for a few months incase there were cardiac
problems. I FORGOT TO MENTION HE FOUND A NEW JOB OVER A YEAR AGO.
Work were very understanding!
My closing paragraph , I asked him what was wrong and instead of him saying the usual im tired or im fine, he told me that
he wants to live on his own. I was numb. I couldnt believe it. That conversation changed my whole life, I wanted to believe
we would be together forever. So much time invested for it to end like this.
Lots said and done over the next few days and then he left...
Within weeks of leaving he has moved in with his manager who left her husband a while before he left me! He never told me
that when he lived at home. !!
He insists she is not the reason he left. Im heartbroken , all I have done is love and care for him. Our children are finding this all very
hard and dont understand what has happened to their dad.
He was a loving family man. I dont understand who I have been married to.. Couple of our children have almost no contact with him
one of them talks to him weekly. I havent seen him in 5 months and the only communication is the odd txt message.
One of my children says he is defensive and almost feels like he is the victim, doesnt get the pain he has caused as he
says the totally wrong thing.
I f you have read this far thankyou
Your thoughts would be appreciated.




