My DBF is depressed. I dont know what to do anymore. I feel like my entire world is breaking into a thousand tiny pieces at times. It all started in 2003 when he moved away from his parents and me to start law school. He was fine in his classes but then he would call me and talk about suicide and how lonely he was. I would drive 2.5 hours just to be with him for the night and leave early in the morning to get to my job. I moved in with him in May of 2004.
        He finally withdrew from law school that year and had a seizure in March of 2004. The doctors are still not sure what caused the seizure. They think it might be the result of Wellbutrin and a high fever he had a few days before. He had two shoulder surgeries to repair the damage in 2004 and 2005. He tried to go back to law school in 2005 but he would throw up in the morning from his nerves. He is now living with his 68 year old parents (he is 26 years old) and I think that they may be part of the problem. His mother is very controlling. She wants everything her way or she screams or just wont talk. His father has never talked to him about sports, etc. (stuff a father would talk to his son about). He just wants his parents to love him and accept him. That is the whole reason he was going to be a lawyer to make his parents happy. DBF has started drinking to ease the pain he feels from them. This of course has made his parents even stricter with money, car keys, and his privacy. They are essentially smothering him.
        When he is upbeat, he is fine. He tells me he loves me and he is fun to be around. When he is down, however, he wont listen to anything that you say. I tell him I love him, but when he is that way he thinks I would be better off with someone else. I dont want to leave him but I am beginning to wonder how much longer I can deal with the rollercoaster of emotions he is having me ride.
        At the moment I am at work and he has called me to tell me that he had a drink. His sister is visiting his parents at the moments with her two sons. They have all went to the movies and left him there alone. He is doing this in order to make his parents angry at him because they accused him of drinking one day when he had not. They dont trust him anymore and I am beginning not to now. I made him promise not to drink and the next day he had. I dont know what to do anymore. I cry everytime he does this and it makes him feel awful. It really hurts me. Ive threatened leaving him but he knows that I wont really do that so it doesnt work. I dont want to leave him. Any guidance?
        He is currently taking Dizapan, Cymbalta, Lexapro.
        He finally withdrew from law school that year and had a seizure in March of 2004. The doctors are still not sure what caused the seizure. They think it might be the result of Wellbutrin and a high fever he had a few days before. He had two shoulder surgeries to repair the damage in 2004 and 2005. He tried to go back to law school in 2005 but he would throw up in the morning from his nerves. He is now living with his 68 year old parents (he is 26 years old) and I think that they may be part of the problem. His mother is very controlling. She wants everything her way or she screams or just wont talk. His father has never talked to him about sports, etc. (stuff a father would talk to his son about). He just wants his parents to love him and accept him. That is the whole reason he was going to be a lawyer to make his parents happy. DBF has started drinking to ease the pain he feels from them. This of course has made his parents even stricter with money, car keys, and his privacy. They are essentially smothering him.
        When he is upbeat, he is fine. He tells me he loves me and he is fun to be around. When he is down, however, he wont listen to anything that you say. I tell him I love him, but when he is that way he thinks I would be better off with someone else. I dont want to leave him but I am beginning to wonder how much longer I can deal with the rollercoaster of emotions he is having me ride.
        At the moment I am at work and he has called me to tell me that he had a drink. His sister is visiting his parents at the moments with her two sons. They have all went to the movies and left him there alone. He is doing this in order to make his parents angry at him because they accused him of drinking one day when he had not. They dont trust him anymore and I am beginning not to now. I made him promise not to drink and the next day he had. I dont know what to do anymore. I cry everytime he does this and it makes him feel awful. It really hurts me. Ive threatened leaving him but he knows that I wont really do that so it doesnt work. I dont want to leave him. Any guidance?
        He is currently taking Dizapan, Cymbalta, Lexapro.




