My Dh wanted to move out and take some time to get things straight in his mind. he was drinking pretty heavily and did not come home one night. I told him he should go ahead and go if that is what he thinks he needs because drinking and not coming home at night was not helping anything.
He filed for divorce the next day. I am shocked, I supported him taking time, I know he is miserable, but his ending the relationship is shocking to me.
He says that he is miserable and is not blaming it on me, but on the fact that he is in a relationship. He says he cannot stay in it because if he does he will just keep hurting me. He says he wants to stay friends and that my inability to be his friends in the future is eliminating any chance of our getting back together. He says he loves me.
I am so confused. I do not know what he believes and what he is saying out of guilt or to make me feel better.
He is not getting any help for the D. I suppose I should just walk away and let him have his divorce, but I feel like he is going to regret it and it is not what I want at all.
I have no idea how to proceed, I don't know if I can be his friend, but I do not want to loose him forever either.
He filed for divorce the next day. I am shocked, I supported him taking time, I know he is miserable, but his ending the relationship is shocking to me.
He says that he is miserable and is not blaming it on me, but on the fact that he is in a relationship. He says he cannot stay in it because if he does he will just keep hurting me. He says he wants to stay friends and that my inability to be his friends in the future is eliminating any chance of our getting back together. He says he loves me.
I am so confused. I do not know what he believes and what he is saying out of guilt or to make me feel better.
He is not getting any help for the D. I suppose I should just walk away and let him have his divorce, but I feel like he is going to regret it and it is not what I want at all.
I have no idea how to proceed, I don't know if I can be his friend, but I do not want to loose him forever either.




