My husband has had a mood disorder for as long as I've know him and we've been married for 28 years. In other words, the fact that I'm married to two different men in the same body is not new to me.
Up until a little more than a year ago, I cared for my elderly mother in our home for ten years. She had Alzheimer's and I rarely had a chance to leave the house because she needed care 24/7. When she died, I felt a huge hole in my life and I didn't know how to fill it. Last spring, I got involved volunteering for a presidential candidate. (I won't mention which one). Anyway, it has shown me that I have talents I never knew I had, that I can be outgoing and self-confident, and even persuasive. I'd call that quite a breakthrough, but today my husband, who is depressed because the car was totalled last week, informed me that if I don't quit the campaign he'll divorce me. I know it sounds cold, but I told him he might as well do it because I don't intend to lose what I've managed to find for myself.
So, after a long rant, I have a question; "Do your SO's (when they're depressed) resent you for being happy and having a life outside of their misery?" I'd really like to know because to me, this is the straw that breaks the camel's back. Any coments would be appreciated. Thanks.
Up until a little more than a year ago, I cared for my elderly mother in our home for ten years. She had Alzheimer's and I rarely had a chance to leave the house because she needed care 24/7. When she died, I felt a huge hole in my life and I didn't know how to fill it. Last spring, I got involved volunteering for a presidential candidate. (I won't mention which one). Anyway, it has shown me that I have talents I never knew I had, that I can be outgoing and self-confident, and even persuasive. I'd call that quite a breakthrough, but today my husband, who is depressed because the car was totalled last week, informed me that if I don't quit the campaign he'll divorce me. I know it sounds cold, but I told him he might as well do it because I don't intend to lose what I've managed to find for myself.
So, after a long rant, I have a question; "Do your SO's (when they're depressed) resent you for being happy and having a life outside of their misery?" I'd really like to know because to me, this is the straw that breaks the camel's back. Any coments would be appreciated. Thanks.




