hello,
6 months ago my bf sent me an e-mail after a few weeks of no communication (we have a very long distance relationship) that he is sorry for letting me down and that not writing or talking to me was a very wrong thing to do. and that he would go to afghanistan. well, there he was for 1,5 months. he had to come back because the doctor diagnosed him with major depression. so he sent me another e-mail that i should not contact him because he doesn't feel like talking to me right now. this was almost 4 months ago. since then i sometimes tried to send letters (like anne had advised) or e-mails, i sent him a small birthday present with a card not mentioning at all how much i love him.
a few weeks ago i got in contact with a common friend who said that he is doing much better now and i see they are regulary in contact, he is doing his hobbies again and all that. but it seems he is totally ignoring me. no reaction at all. no thank you for presents, no let me be alone -reaction. just nothing.
before all this began i was about to ask him whether we get married. this is hurting like crazy and i have no idea what to do.
since the situation is literally killing me slowly i decided to go to the psychiatrist this week on friday. my therapist also said that would be a good thing to do.
please, can anybody tell me about similar situations or any adcise. i'd be very thankful for that!
6 months ago my bf sent me an e-mail after a few weeks of no communication (we have a very long distance relationship) that he is sorry for letting me down and that not writing or talking to me was a very wrong thing to do. and that he would go to afghanistan. well, there he was for 1,5 months. he had to come back because the doctor diagnosed him with major depression. so he sent me another e-mail that i should not contact him because he doesn't feel like talking to me right now. this was almost 4 months ago. since then i sometimes tried to send letters (like anne had advised) or e-mails, i sent him a small birthday present with a card not mentioning at all how much i love him.
a few weeks ago i got in contact with a common friend who said that he is doing much better now and i see they are regulary in contact, he is doing his hobbies again and all that. but it seems he is totally ignoring me. no reaction at all. no thank you for presents, no let me be alone -reaction. just nothing.
before all this began i was about to ask him whether we get married. this is hurting like crazy and i have no idea what to do.
since the situation is literally killing me slowly i decided to go to the psychiatrist this week on friday. my therapist also said that would be a good thing to do.
please, can anybody tell me about similar situations or any adcise. i'd be very thankful for that!




