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Nov 26 08 2:17 PM
You have the right to be mad if you feel there's more than a casual relationship. If you're mad, avoid any contact until you aren't mad. Also, think about the dynamics of the holiday and analyze whether T has his head on straight.
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Nov 26 08 2:45 PM
Nov 26 08 3:18 PM
jessho...explain...."think about the dynamics of the holiday and analyze wheather T has his head on straight"...i don't understand what that means???
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Nov 26 08 4:31 PM
Well, I really don't know everything about your relationship, so I'm in the dark on the details. As you write more, I have a better feeling on what's going on. Here's how I'm reading it: T called you because he knows, sooner or later, you'll find out that X was involved with Thanksgiving and wanted to give you a heads up. That's a good thing....kinda. It sounds a little insecure, although that may be how he does things. Maybe he's just sounding you out. Fishing, for lack of a better term. He's mad, which leads to why. Mad because he feels threatened? Mad because he know it might jeopardize your relationship? Mad, because he feels trapped? Mad because sister is a pain in the butt and overstepped her bounds again? Mad because he has feelings for X? I know he said he's mad at sister, but getting mad for something like that is useless if she's as psycho as she is portrayed. I'd be more worried than mad.
Lynne, who really likes the "fringe benefits" and companionship, is feeling a little threatened, since every step has been frought with the wreckage of fallout. It's like working your way barefooted through a parking lot full of broken glass. Lynn is also a little confused, since T's baggage has been opened again. Nobody want's to look and see if it's empty.
So, you have the potential of a train wreck. Plenty of switches and ways to go, but which way is the train going? Now what to do?
Here's what I'd do: I'd drop by after work and sound the waters. Personal contact is much better for reading between the body language. If I had a problem with X, since she sounds a little dangerous, I'd tell T to watch his six and have a good holiday. Then, I'd go home and have a good holiday. The rest is a waiting game.
Nov 26 08 4:49 PM
Lynne, who really likes the "fringe benefits" and companionship, is feeling a little threatened, since every step has been frought with the wreckage of fallout. It's like working your way barefooted through a parking lot full of broken glass. Lynn is also a little confused, since T's baggage has been opened again. Nobody want's to look and see if it's empty. Just so you know....T is not depressed...came to this board because of the X (J)....and just stayed around for company and my friends.........YES< i like my comfortable relationahip......and YES< this baggage of the T's X is a tad bit irritating!!!!!! So, you have the potential of a train wreck. Plenty of switches and ways to go, but which way is the train going? Now what to do?
Here's what I'd do: I'd drop by after work and sound the waters. Personal contact is much better for reading between the body language. If I had a problem with X, since she sounds a little dangerous, I'd tell T to watch his six and have a good holiday. Then, I'd go home and have a good holiday. The rest is a waiting game. i think i will drop by after work.....feel him out well, ok....i will check out the situation....and call it a night out with the girls!!!!!!!
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Dec 1 08 12:08 AM
I am also puzzled about why you are so upset. He called you, told you the truth, it's his sister so he is trying to balance his relationship with her and with you, and yeah, he's fuming about this happening. His sister manipulated him into a pretty awkward situation and she is wrong for doing so. It is OBVIOUS he is into you. Some guys would not have called like he did and explain the situation, especially in a "casual relationship" as you keep enforcing that this is. He cares about you and about your feelings, and he was thinking of you and discussing the situation and asking if and how you could still see one another. He wanted you to know instead of hearing it later. You should be thrilled. If this (or any other) "casual relationship" turns into something long term and you want it to last, you will have to control your reactionary emotions and fears. I hope that you ended up saving the drama for your mama and gave him a break.
Dec 1 08 10:25 AM
hey guys...i have been in hiding so jessho....i put on a very SEXY cleavage top and jacket....with my sweet kick a$$ PAS boots and made my appearance at the store....(no it did not look strange that i was dressed up.....remember....we were suppose to go bar hopping that night)....so i stopped in..... EVIL glares from sister.....dad was overly NICE to me.....and T walked me out.....promised he would call me and apologized again. answers: ( hope i don't miss any questions ) i was not mad at T....but i was disappointed that he did NOT have the balls to say....SISTER BACK OFF!!!!!! i am very annoyed over his sisters constant "in your business" behavior!!!!!!! AND TC (glad to see you around girl...missed you).....you are right girlfriend....i wanted that....SCREW THEM...it's you baby, NOT her. i really do not have that right...it's casual, BUT !@%$.....i think i just won't admit to the feelings, because i still have some leftovers DFO issues, with commitment and oh yes, TRUST. speaking of trust.....i did trust him, but this weekend...i found myself NOT trusting him. he had to work all day friday till 10ish, same for saturday and sunday till 7pm.......i had plans all weekend.....BLACK friday=shopping saturday= going to ohio with my mom and decorating the house and sunday actually was the ONLY day i would of been free to see him. i did hear from him around 10ish on wednesday night (i was out clubbing)......promised he would call......did not hear again from him...till saturday, but i was in ohio with my mom and the reception sucked.....and now it's monday morning....and sh!t, i seriously (thought this just may be my own lack of self esteem), but i actually have a gut feeling that they had a nice weekend and that his sister succeeded in her scheming plan. that's the NUTSHELL...and yes, i realzie and know that I am the one, with SERIOUS relationship issues....because of the DFO crap i with through with J.
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