D people who are taking meds - if its the wrong med, is one of the side affects, or one of the characteristics that comes out...nastiness? Just plain being mean, bitter, nasty? Or is that just the med NOT working and the person is on the wrong med?
My soon-to-be-ex has been showing a side of him that honestly, I have NEVER seen. He is just bitter and mean within the last 2 - 3 weeks. He was somewhat like that prior to the meds when he was going thru the depression this past year, he is now on Cymbalta but I am not sure its working the way it should - honestly, he is so very bitter and just "angry". Not physically angry, just the things that come out of his mouth and the attitude he has with me...for no reason. I know this sounds familiar from my other posts - but again, the more I back off from him, cut my ties, move on with my life, the more bitter he has become.
Example:
Saturday I went to my mandated Parenting Class. Its part of the divorce process. 6 hour class - I got it done. He did not know that I was taking the class (his weekedn with the kids). At one point during the day, I saw him, I had to get something from him. I asked him (very natuarally and nicely) if he had spoken with the lawyer and submitted his paperwork in (financial affidavite, tax copies, etc). DH said "no". I then told him that I had already submitted my paperwork, so we were waiting on him. DH says "well, we aren't scheduled until Feb. for our case hearing". I said "well, no, I have requested a January case hearing". DH asks why, I tell him that I would just like to move forward, no reason to wait anymore". He shrugs his shoulders and says "no skin off my back". I replied "I didn't say it would be, that is why I am asking if you can get your stuff in". He says "I heard you, how many times are you going to tell me?". So, I walk away towards the car. he then asks me if we need to show up in court that day or will the lawyer take care of it. I tell him I don't know. He replies with "it would probably be easier for both of us if we didn't have to show up". I had no reply because I had no idea what he was referring to.
That is just one example - I could tell he was agitated, but was doing a darn good job of covering it up and telling me it was no skin off his back to push it up a month earlier...
My concern is, he just seems to be angry and bitter. I know it shouldn't be my issue anymore, but I still worry. And I guess I am still in the dark as to why he treats me this way when I am just going by what he has been asking for.
So, if anyone has encountered similar scenarios, reactions, etc, I would appreciate your insight...
My soon-to-be-ex has been showing a side of him that honestly, I have NEVER seen. He is just bitter and mean within the last 2 - 3 weeks. He was somewhat like that prior to the meds when he was going thru the depression this past year, he is now on Cymbalta but I am not sure its working the way it should - honestly, he is so very bitter and just "angry". Not physically angry, just the things that come out of his mouth and the attitude he has with me...for no reason. I know this sounds familiar from my other posts - but again, the more I back off from him, cut my ties, move on with my life, the more bitter he has become.
Example:
Saturday I went to my mandated Parenting Class. Its part of the divorce process. 6 hour class - I got it done. He did not know that I was taking the class (his weekedn with the kids). At one point during the day, I saw him, I had to get something from him. I asked him (very natuarally and nicely) if he had spoken with the lawyer and submitted his paperwork in (financial affidavite, tax copies, etc). DH said "no". I then told him that I had already submitted my paperwork, so we were waiting on him. DH says "well, we aren't scheduled until Feb. for our case hearing". I said "well, no, I have requested a January case hearing". DH asks why, I tell him that I would just like to move forward, no reason to wait anymore". He shrugs his shoulders and says "no skin off my back". I replied "I didn't say it would be, that is why I am asking if you can get your stuff in". He says "I heard you, how many times are you going to tell me?". So, I walk away towards the car. he then asks me if we need to show up in court that day or will the lawyer take care of it. I tell him I don't know. He replies with "it would probably be easier for both of us if we didn't have to show up". I had no reply because I had no idea what he was referring to.
That is just one example - I could tell he was agitated, but was doing a darn good job of covering it up and telling me it was no skin off his back to push it up a month earlier...
My concern is, he just seems to be angry and bitter. I know it shouldn't be my issue anymore, but I still worry. And I guess I am still in the dark as to why he treats me this way when I am just going by what he has been asking for.
So, if anyone has encountered similar scenarios, reactions, etc, I would appreciate your insight...




