I have wondered, especially, after reading some of the lines which lead up to some of the conversations of which we call abusive...how much of what we ourselves say taunt our spouses...they say something we think is ridiculous, something we think is obvious...and they continue to complain about it...the next thing we say is added to that, which escalates the situation...and so on and so forth. They in turn blow up and say something that it was stupid to suggest that...and we term that abusive. I guess if it goes along for awhile it can be considered abusive. I just wonder what our role is in all of this...no, I am not saying we our 'asking for it'...I am thinking that at some point we start getting nasty ourselves. Even if not intentionally. We hurt, we want to hurt.
How many of us find ourselves saying things we later regret, not major things, just minor cheap shots, passive agressive comments that we realize later was not a way to turn down the heat...but add fuel to the fire?
How many of us find ourselves saying things we later regret, not major things, just minor cheap shots, passive agressive comments that we realize later was not a way to turn down the heat...but add fuel to the fire?
*This is an disclaimer...nothing in the content of this or any post is of real people...this is hypothetical.




